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  • Christina Hubeli

Questions To Figure Out What Kind of Wedding YOU Want

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Photo: Brian Coss Photography

As you’re chatting with potential wedding vendors, you might find that they (Burst included) will ask you a LOT of questions about your wedding day. There will be the basics like ideal date, budget, and guest count, but they also may dive deeper into your specific vision, priorities, and guest experience.

With an endless source of ideas on Pinterest & the Knot, countless details to consider, and “helpful” feedback from every family and friend you’ve ever had, it can be difficult to really nail down how YOU want your wedding day to look and feel.

Below, we have a list of questions to help you figure out what kind of wedding YOU want. A few notes before we get started. Keep in mind, there are no wrong answers! This is your wedding, and these questions will serve as a roadmap for gaining a clearer vision of your day.

If you don’t know the answer to some or most of these questions, that’s okay! These are helpful items to consider as you’re starting to wedding plan, but by no means do you need an answer to every question at this point. Moreover, you have time to think through your answers and chat about them with your partner. This is also a good starting point for looping in any others who may be involved in the planning process.

So with that, let’s begin!

  • Where do you want to get married?

  • What time of year do you want to get married?

  • What time of day do you want to get married?

  • Do you want to get married on a Friday, Saturday, Sunday, or another day of the week?

  • Is there any flexibility to where/when you want to get married?

  • Do you want a one-day event or events over several days (i.e. welcome cocktails, rehearsal dinner, farewell brunch, etc.)?

  • How many guests are on your guest list?

  • How many guests do you actually want to invite?

  • How many guests does your _________ [fill in the blank: parents, grandparents, future in-laws, etc.] want to invite?

  • Do you want to invite kids to your wedding?

  • What is your budget?

  • Who is contributing to your budget?

  • If others are contributing to your budget, how involved do they want to be in the planning process?

  • What is the amount you are realistically comfortable spending?

  • What are your top 3 priorities for your wedding?

  • What are your bottom 3 priorities for your wedding?

  • How involved do you want to be in your wedding planning process?

  • How involved do you want others to be in your wedding planning process? (This could be your partner, parents, grandparents, wedding party, etc.)

  • Do you want an indoor or outdoor wedding? Or a mix of both?

  • What style(s) of venue do you like? (Industrial, loft, barn, estate, vineyard, hotel, ballroom, garden, historic, museum, country club, rooftop, etc.)

  • What style(s) of venue do you not like?

  • Do you want a religious ceremony?

  • Is there a certain style/theme you want for your wedding?

    • This can work both ways: some couples have a certain style in mind and base their venue selection on that. Other couples develop their style/theme after choosing a venue. So don’t fret if you’re not quite sure yet!

  • Are there certain colors you want to incorporate into your wedding?

  • What is most important to you about your guests’ experience?

  • Do you want a more formal or informal reception?

  • Is there any certain entertainment you would like to have for guests?

  • Is there anything (an idea, certain vendor, etc.) that you’re like “I can’t live without ______ on my wedding day!!!!”?

If you’re still feeling overwhelmed during or after going through these questions, it might be helpful to chat with a planner to separate out what you actually want and need from what you don’t. We’re just a phone call away!

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