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  • Alexis Alvarez

Is Fear of the Unknown Stalling Your Wedding Planning Progress?

Hey engaged friend,

You’re probably here because the title of this post resonated with you. Maybe you’re newly engaged and afraid to begin planning your wedding because you don’t know when COVID will be over. Maybe you’ve been engaged for a while and you’re looking at the reality of postponement or you’ve already postponed once, twice, three times. No matter what side of the engagement spectrum you find yourself on, I want to start by telling you that you’re not alone.

I talk to dozens of couples every week. From our 1:1 wedding planning clients to prospective clients to couples in our Wedding Planning Membership to couples in Facebook groups and each and every one of you is feeling the same things.

Frustration. Fear. Loss. Anxiety. Hopelessness. Confusion.

You are not alone in your feelings. They are valid & they are normal.

Many of you are stuck in paralysis. You don’t know how to move forward. How to decide whether to postpone (again) or to keep planning for your wedding date. Many of you are newly engaged and have seen 2020 and 2021 couples lose deposits, lose hope, lose their vision of their dream wedding and you’re afraid. What if it happens to me? We didn’t think this would last as long as it has, who’s to say we won’t be in the same place this time next year?

I want to repeat, you are not alone in your feelings. They are valid & they are normal.

Have you ever been in an underground cave?

My husband and I went to one in Kentucky on a trip once. While it initially didn’t seem like a big deal to be in an underground cave, by the time we made it down there I was a little nervous. I mean, we were really underground. It was dark. I had no idea where I was going or how to get out. And if a crisis happened… like the roof caving in above us, I wouldn’t have known what to do. That’s why they don’t let you go into underground caves without a tour guide.

I heard a statistic recently that something like 62% of couples is planning their wedding without a Planner. Maybe you’re one of them.

Friends, the metaphorical roof is caving in above you. Between a pandemic with an unknown expiration date, 1 in 4 small businesses closing (the events industry being one of the hardest-hit), loved ones getting sick… your ideals are literally being buried as the roof caves in. I know it sounds dramatic, but I know you can feel it in your fear. You’re afraid of losing money. You’re afraid of getting a year into this experience to only have it be postponed. You’re afraid you won’t have the wedding you’ve been dreaming of. And that fear is keeping you from making decisions.

You need a tour guide.

You need someone who has navigated this path before. Who’s been trained in this specific type of crisis management. Someone who knows the questions to ask, the steps to take, how to make the tough calls and how to help you choose the right path for you.

For my first time ever, I am going to type the words, you NEED a Wedding Planner.

I’m sure some of you just rolled your eyes. “Of course she says I need a Wedding Planner, she is a Wedding Planner.” Yes, that’s true, but more than anything, I want you to experience the relief of knowing you’re not in this alone.

Try it. Schedule a consultation with a Wedding Planner. Any Wedding Planner. I’m not even suggesting it be us. Schedule a call though and just see how you feel afterward.

Do you feel supported? Do you feel heard? Do you feel led? Do you feel finally like you’re not in this alone?

If you do, then hire them.

I totally understand how decision paralysis can set in and you're not sure what the right call is to make. The truth is there are dozens of more decisions just like this one that you're going to face during planning. I get that the cost is high and so are the emotions, so I want you to have someone to guide you through them.

If you don’t believe me, listen to what Lesly & Shane said. A couple who originally did not think they needed a Wedding Planner.

To find out if we’re the right partner for you, schedule a free call to meet us and decide for yourself.


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